Travel far, pay no fare .. A book can take you anywhere


Since I moved to EastCoast ,my commute for everyday office and home are more than half an hour.I choose to take bus because of the city where I came from doesn’t have electronic train and I am sick of looking at people who always gulp with phone.On Bus, I can get the Sun light by the windows,sometime rain drop on the window and quiet time. I take effort to get up early to finish my daily chaos and leave home early to take bus. If I am being lucky ,sometime the bus driver uncle must say “good morning to me”. And sometime wait for my hight heel run to catch up bus.

When I was in university, I used to fall asleep on our school bus. Yes, our University are out of city and it take at least an hour to reach there. Being five years in university daily trip to that route made me fall asleep easily whether movie vehicle I take. Surprisingly! these day  I am quite awake and curving to read books. I done one short book in three days of my commute. And took two weeks to finish one book as well.

Travel far, pay no fare .. A book can take you anywhere. Once I reading about “A Full Life “ : book about Jimmy Carter, thirty-ninth President. He bring me from small Island of Sunny Singapore to 1900 American farm to White house,and through around the world with his experiences and political view. I haven’t no comment on his political views but I am admire his consistently learning, advocate community person, helping and setting up carter foundation. Start from his boyhood character to the end of Ninety year old man of peanut farmer, serve in Navy , back to home with start from scratch business man , Governor , president and Nobel price winner.

Then again, when I read about Farangi Girl Growing Up in Iran :  book about the girl grow up in Iran with her glamorous American mother and her father a dashing Englishman.She hadn’t been pleasant life like Disney movie. But she been well written about her full dynamics family life with country in Iran, America. Some of her written are quite been difficult to me as second English speaker.I’ve been read two three time to understand some words and some time noted it down for few words. But it is beautiful biography to read.

Just recently I am finishing the book which I borrow last Saturday.I only took complete two days to finish the book and the feeling of finishing this book is quite sad to me. A stolen Life:   Astonishing memorial book! I am quite sad and even my tear are come out when Jaycee met her mother.I couldn’t imagine how life she had been encounter.Just took this book by curiosity of what is life and it turn out remarkable book I ever read. Yes, it was happened and I sure there are many more life which we don’t know had been stolen.I am very glad Jaycee take effort to read this book and still resist to live life. I hope we could aware of our children and our environment more than as we did and support them as we can. I am quite sure ,we would meet kind of Phillip in our life and we even could not create one of them.

Now time to open my new book ….

photo for this post was I took around 2012 in mandalay

spectrum of light


Sunday morning, the wind breeze around the pool.The sun hasn’t full shine and her lights are cover by dark clouds.It was quiet morning and I was the only one who around in pool. I am having my morning coffee after first round of my swimming. The father and daughter walk toward to the pool and having chat about how cold and quiet morning it is. They glance at me and I smile to both of them. Then they started change clothes and prepare to swim.Girl around age of 11 was talking to her dad the water might be cold and she started touching the water with her feet. “Oh! it is cold Daddy”! she shouted to her Dad.Yes, indeed! water was a bit colder than normal because of cloudy wind and heave rain by last night.The man around age of 40 look his daughter and “go ahead!once you enter into water you will not cold!” shouted to his daughter who is stopping half way of in ground pool ladder. I am looking the girl and see how she respond. Eventually,she started enter into water and moved around her body and shouting,laughing to her Dad.”Daddy! come! come! let swim” . Later on they both swam and forgot about how cold water was.

It was short moment I saw in this morning and it remind me of how we are affect by our parent(s). That moment ,he can say his daughter “wait till sun come up”, “Don’t go deep water” “Wait ,I come with you and swim with me”. The way he respond is the way how the girl react.What if he say, “wait till sun come up” and the girl will think waiting in situation will good enough to do something? What if he say “Wait ,I come with you and swim with me”,the girl will always depend on him and hard to do herself. It is normal conversation between father and daughter but it turn out huge topic for me to think. How I will respond if I have child ? How I want my child grow up?

Just recently I  had deep conversation with my co-worker about same topic of how are parent(s) reflect to our future. I haven’t spend enough time with my Dad so I have not too much reflecting from him. But I am reflection of my mom and I’m thankful to my mom how she rise and lift my life. Our parent(s) want all the best for our life, all the success and all the happiness to our life and they don’t want we hurt, they don’t want we fall. Although, how parent(s) prevent faults and failure from our life, we eventually have to face it and fix it.

Behind every successful man / woman there are wonderful parents”! There is father who let his daughter read,think and speak behind Malala. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show… There is a mother who rised the daughter who become first female computer scientist Ada Lovelace  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show… There were drug abuse parent who give life experiences to their daughter ,Liz Murray who best seller of homeless to harvest. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show… .

So how (parent(s)) you want your child to live life wisely and strongly? And you (children of reflection ) how you become spectrum of light? 

New Year , New Resolution, New Me, New You…


New Year , New Resolution, New Me, New You…

Everyday I wake up ,every morning is new day of me. Every morning is new challenge of me.

Lost weight, stay healthy,travel often, be happy, care who love you and don’t let any noise from outside come to your inner etc etc…

These all facts shouldn’t be new year resolutions. Should be your to do list of your everyday life. Last two years, I said myself ,I am very good at start something and bad at ending. Specially in the middle of goal (challenge) I lost interest and keep excuse about I’ll do it next time,next year, next … I hate it , I don’t like that my habit and I want to change.

*** You need a commitment strategy, not an exit strategy.***

Early this year ,thank my company gave chance to talk in our casual Friday Flocket. I do research about what should I talk, what should share information to my fellow colleagues which is meaningful and which is useful. I find out lot of tech topic, lot of life hack ,art & science but have I done all these stuff ? Have I really using these facts in daily life ? NO… so I forget about research in internet and write down what I really want to do and plan to do!!!

Habit ! I write down script about Habit and my awesome colleague draw beautiful art work and film it!

“we become what we repeatedly do” Sean Covey,

Lateness: as busy world we used to stay late, work late , busy our to do lists, meeting and etc etc.. I used to say , I am Workaholics and I love staying late to work.But when long run it will effect your health and your life cycle.

****Workaholics miss the point, too. They try to fix problems by throwing sheer hours at them.They even create crises. They don’t look for ways to be more efficient because they actually like working overtime. They enjoy feeling like heroes. They create problems (often unwittingly) just so they can get off on working more. ***

This is one of words, I love from “rework” ref:[1]

*Break the big thing into smaller things.”, Find out which one is more priority and which one you can finish.  The longer something takes, the less likely it is that you’re going to finish it. Ask and communicate effectively with your mentor, colleagues and manger when you stuck. Most importantly , everything should balance.

Negative Attitudes: as natural human being, we used to create lot of inner drama of “why this happen to me, why me , why why ?? We overthink , we insecure and we over protect which come out negative .

*Don’t make things worse by overanalyzing and delaying before you even get going. *

Be graceful what you have,give gratitude who everyone you meet, no one born to be evil. I used to be short temper and angry person. But after all I am tired, the other person who battle fight with me also tired. There is no point to be argue and angry about things which we can’t control and handle. I change my anger and stress to sports! Whenever I feel like I need to take break or I need to think , I go for run. I go to squash . Hitting the ball with my racket is better than hitting someone personality by words. Tired of running is better than tired of overthinking and over overanalyzing.

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days: https://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days

And start some hobby  and make it your habit. I take challenge every single 30days if you keep doing , that will be your habit.I choose squash as my physical sport habit. Yes! first days full of energy, full of exciting. Day 15 ,I am tried,body pain but I keep doing cause if I give up that time I will never finished. So after three months, I keep going squash every 3days in week and keep loving it.

“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.” – Bruce Lee

I knew everyone who every read my post might knew all these facts, but we keep our knowledge as like we learn from school, we forgot to apply, we seeking info which we already know. So one of techniques I learn squash, when ball is too close to you, step back ,prepare your body, wait ball bounce and hit harder as you can.

Sometime in life, take step back, prepare for your emotion and your body strong enough to hit the waves and HIT IT! Happy Holidays everyone and Merry Christmas everyone!

refer :

Rework by Jason Fried  http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6732019-rework

Richard St. John: Success is a continuous journey https://www.ted.com/talks/richard_st_john_success_is_a_continuous_journey

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days: https://www.ted.com/talks/matt_cutts_try_something_new_for_30_days

Long Weekend hide away: Melaka


 

12472458_10208971707793805_5576257891244195229_nLong weekend is coming around in Singapore and traditionally we plan to get out of Singapore.I’ve been travel most of places by my own and met my friends around the corner of world always.This time I plan to travel with my friends.Yes, travel often and travel with friends is one of my bucket list before 30. So I let them to lead and follow the flow.

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beside of very long queue shop we ate same food no queues 

It turn out really nice experiences, build our strong friendship,sharing knowledge,sharing food and beds 🙂 We take risk,we missed bus, we walk walk a lot of steps (almost 15k per days) in that long weekend under the sun , under the neon light.We missed our bus (luckily it was only cause SGD 7).We trolled people who queue for same food but different shop .

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middle of Malaysia and Singapore customs

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Melaka is beautiful little city which take their ordinary and keep their antique building.Most of all very clean and feel safe. Food over there are cheap and no need to bagging for shopping(as my experiences for three days).

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My favourite area is along Sungai Melaka river, cool fancy cafe and restaurant. Good for walk around and taking pic like tourist.OH yes! I always take different kind of massage whatever I go. The massage I took is beside Pasar Besar Melaka Market and there are disable people who serve massage ,pretty sweet and take care of customers. I would highly recommend to go there and take foot massage.

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 Jonker Street Night Market is happy ending of our hungry stomach.
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